Notes

INTRODUCTION

1 Katty Kay and Claire Shipman, The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know (New York: Harper Collins, 2014), xvi.

2 Ibid., 21.

3 “After the Backlash Barbie Gets a New Set of Skills,” All Things Considered (NPR). Podcast audio, Nov. 22, 2014, http://www.npr.org/2014/11/22/365968465/after-backlash-computer-engineer-barbie-gets-new-set-of-skills/.

4 Glynnis MacNicol, “Flip Flopping Is Now Essential to Getting Ahead,” ELLE, May 20, 2015.

5 Reid Hoffman and Ben Casnocha, The Start-Up of You: Adapt to the Future, Invest in Yourself, and Transform Your Career (New York: Crown Business, 2012), 8–9.

6 Heather Long, “The New Normal: 4 Changes by the Time You’re 32,” CNN Money, April 12, 2016, http://money.cnn.com/2016/04/12/news/economy/millennials-change-jobs-frequently/.

CHAPTER 1: CHANGE YOUR WORDS: BOOST YOUR BRAND

1 Jessica Bennett, “I’m Sorry, But Women Really Need to Stop Apologizing,” Time, June 18, 2014; Melissa Dahl, “Sorry I’m Not Sorry, I’m Sorry,” New York, June 20, 2014.

2 Emma Gray, “Amy Schumer’s ‘I’m Sorry’ Skewers a Culture That Makes Women Apologize Constantly,” The Huffington Post, May, 14, 2015, http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/05/14/amy-schumer-im-sorry-not-sorry_n_7276504.html/.

3 Alexandra Petri, “Famous Quotes the Way a Woman Would Have to Say Them During a Meeting,” The Washington Post, October 13, 2015.

4 “The Double Bind Dilemma for Women in Leadership: Damned If You Do, Doomed If You Don’t,” Catalyst, July 2007, http://www.catalyst.org/knowledge/double-bind.

5 Deborah Tannen, “Our Impossible Expectations of Hillary Clinton and All Women in Authority,” Washington Post, February 19, 2016.

6 Colby Itkowitz, “Little Marco, ‘Lyin’ Ted,’ ‘Crooked Hillary’: How Donald Trump Makes Name Calling Stick,” Washington Post, April 20, 2016.

7 April Siese, “Seven Memorable Quotes from Hillary Clinton’s 1995 Women’s Rights Speech That Are Still Meaningful Today,” Bustle, September 6, 2015.

8 Chris Cillizza, “Hillary Clinton, 18 Million Cracks and the Power of Making History,” Washington Post, June 13, 2013.

9 “The Photograph That Has Everyone Texting Hillary Clinton,” Time, April 9, 2012, http://time.com/3787649/texting-hillary-clinton/.

10 Jimmy Kimmel, “Hillary Clinton, Peter Krause, Music from Fifth Harmony,” Jimmy Kimmel Live!, ABC, March 24, 2016.

11 Robin Lakoff, “Nice and Tough,” Robinlakoff.com, Jan. 19, 2016, http://robinlakoff.com/language/nice-and-tough/.

12 Robin Lakoff, “Listening to Her: Reprise,” Robinlakoff.com, March 22, 2016, http://robinlakoff.com/language/listening-to-her-reprise/.

13 Ibid.

14 Kieran Snyder, “The Abrasiveness Trap: High Achieving Men and Women Are Described Differently in Reviews,” Fortune, August 26, 2014.

15 Jennifer Lawrence, “Why Do I Make Less Than My Male Co-Stars?” Lenny Letter, October 12, 2015.

16 Tamar Gottesman, “Beyoncé Wants to Change the Conversation,” ELLE, April 4, 2016.

CHAPTER 2: STRIKE A POSE AND FEEL THE POWER

1 Amy Cuddy, Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2015), 19.

2 Ibid., 24.

3 “Bringing ‘Presence to Your Life,’” Here and Now (WBUR-FM). Podcast audio, Dec. 22, 2015, http://www.wbur.org/hereandnow/2015/12/22/presence-amy-cuddy.

4 Ibid.

5 Cuddy, Presence, chapter 8.

6 Hunter Schwartz, “A Remarkable Photo of President Obama and Angela Merkel,” Washington Post, June 8, 2015.

7 Kay and Shipman, The Confidence Code, xx.

8 Ibid., 61–62.

9 Ibid., 62.

10 Ibid., 21–23.

11 Ibid., 23.

12 Kitty Kay and Claire Shipman, “The Confidence Gap,” The Atlantic, May 2014.

13 Ibid., 145.

14 Carol Dweck, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success (New York: Ballantine Books, 2006).

15 Ibid., 141.

16 Cindi Leive, “Career Advice from Hillary Rodham Clinton: “‘You Don’t Have to be Perfect, Most Men Never Think Like Tha,’” Glamour, August 7, 2014.

17 Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work and the Will to Lead (New York: Knopf, 2013), 62.

CHAPTER 3: CREATE YOUR OWN SERENDIPITY

1 Horace Walpole, “The Invention of Serendipity,” The Paris Review, Jan. 28, 2016.

2 Steven Johnson, Where Good Ideas Come From: The Natural History of Innovation (New York: Riverhead Books, 2010), 31.

3 Ibid., 41.

4 Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2008), 155.

5 Ann Friedman, “Shine Theory: Why Powerful Women Make the Greatest Friends,” New York, May 31, 2013.

6 Adam Grant, Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success (New York: Penguin, 2013), 55, 58.

CHAPTER 4: NETWORKING IN THE GIRLS’ LOUNGE: THE POWER OF CONNECTIONS

1 Brooks Barnes, “Networking in the ‘Girls’ Lounge,’” New York Times, March 5, 2016.

2 Rachel Sklar, “I’m 41, Single and Pregnant,” Medium.com, Oct. 29, 2014, https://medium.com/thelist/im-41-single-and-pregnant-9b2da840a45a#.t4yjlbkfm.

3 Malcolm Gladwell, The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference (New York: Little, Brown and Company, 2000), 55.

4 Ibid., 51.

5 Shane Snow, Smartcuts: How Hackers, Innovators, and Icons Accelerate Success (New York: HarperCollins, 2014), 124.

6 Grant, Give and Take.

7 Reid Hoffman, “Why Relationships Matter: I-to-the-We,” LinkedIn.com, November 6, 2012, https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20121106193412-1213-why-relationships-matter-i-to-the-we/.

8 Jacob Morgan, “Why Every Employee Should Be Building Weak Ties at Work,” Forbes, March 11, 2014.

9 Athena Vongalis-Macrow, “Assess the Value of your Networks,” Harvard Business Review, June 29, 2012.

10 Ibid.

11 Grant, Give and Take, 220.

CHAPTER 5: FALLING FROM THE TOP: RISING WITH RESILIENCE

1 Ken Auletta, “Jill Abramson and the Times: What Went Wrong?,” New Yorker, May 15, 2014.

2 Juliet Eilperin, “White House Women Want to be in the Room Where It Happens,” Washington Post, Sept. 13, 2016.

3 Mark Berman, “Watch Jill Abramson’s Commencement Speech at Wake Forest,” Washington Post, May 19, 2014.

4 Jill Abramson, “Struck on the Street: Four Survivors,” New York Times, May 2, 2014.

CHAPTER 6: CONGRATULATIONS, YOU’RE FIRED!

1 Dan Lyons, “Congratulations! You’ve Been Fired,” New York Times, April 9, 2016.

2 Ibid.

3 Ibid.

4 Reid Hoffman, Ben Casnocha, and Chris Yeh, The Alliance: Managing Talent in the Networked Age (Boston: Harvard Business Review Press, 2014).

5 Patty McCord, “How Netflix Reinvented HR,” Harvard Business Review, Jan.–Feb. 2014.

6 Deborah Copaken Kogan, “My So-Called ‘Post-Feminist Life’ in Arts and Letters,” The Nation, April 9, 2013.

7 Deborah Copaken, “Harvard Grad, 48, Loses Job and Insurance, Gets Rejected by The Container Store,” Forbes.com (repost from Cafe.com), Nov. 4, 2014, http://www.forbes.com/sites/nextavenue/2014/11/04/harvard-grad-48-loses-job-and-insurance-gets-rejected-by-container-store/#71a032695331.

8 KJ Dell’Antonia, “Writer, Rejected for a Retail Job, Is Embraced and Vilified on Facebook,” New York Times, Nov. 3, 2014.

CHAPTER 7: FLIPPING OFF FAILURE

1 “Hillary Clinton Endorses Barack Obama,” New York Times, Transcript of Hillary Clinton Concession Speech, June 7, 2008.

2 Candice M. Hughes, “How Women Entrepreneurs Can Accelerate to Break Out Growth,” Forbes.com, Dec. 1, 2014; Dan Primack, “Women Are Not Making Progress in Male-Dominated VC World, Data Shows,” Fortune, Jan. 30, 2015.

3 Kevin Roose, “The Failure Fetish in Silicon Valley,” New York, March 25, 2014.

4 George Bradt, “Want to Fail Fast, Do These Things,” Forbes, Jan. 23, 2013.

5 Ryan Holiday, “Why You Should Embrace Failure,” Psychology Today, May 12, 2014.

6 Kay and Shipman, The Confidence Code, 140.

7 Dweck, Mindset, 6–7; 15.

8 Ibid., 12.

CHAPTER 8: ITERATE. MEDITATE. REPEAT.

1 “Camp Gyno,” YouTube video, posted by Helloflo, July 28, 2013.

2 “First Moon Party,” YouTube video, posted by Helloflo, August 2014.

3 Russell Simmons, “Russell Simmons: 3 Simple Ways Meditation Will Make You a Better Entrepreneur,” Entrepreneur, March 8, 2014.

4 “Russell Simmons Explains Finding Success Through Stillness,” Rollingout. com, March 7, 2014, http://rollingout.com/2014/03/07/russell-simmons-explains-finding-success-stillness/.

CHAPTER 9: MOTHERS OF REINVENTION

1 Sam Laird, “The Rise of the Mommy Blogger,” Mashable.com, May 8, 2012, http://mashable.com/2012/05/08/mommy-blogger-infographic/#yz6ZwVnJmkqG.

2 Lisa Belkin, “Queen of the Mommy Bloggers,” New York Times, Feb. 23, 2011.

3 Gillian B. White, “Women Are Owning More and More Small Businesses,” The Atlantic, April 17, 2015.

4 Ibid.

CHAPTER 10: BRANDING IS NOT BRAGGING

1 Aliza Licht, Leave Your Mark: Land Your Dream Job. Kill It in Your Career. Rock Social Media (New York: Grand Central Publishing, 2015), 201–202.

2 Kirsten Fleming, “The ‘DKNY PR Girl’ Reveals How to Get Out of a Career Rut,” New York Post, May 4, 2015.

3 Meredith Fineman, “What Your Professional Bio Needs to Get Noticed,” Harvard Business Review, March 2, 2015.

CHAPTER 11: GETTING BACK IN

1 Lisa Belkin, “The Opt-Out Revolution,” New York Times Magazine, Oct. 26, 2003.

2 Leslie Stahl, “October 10, 2004,” 60 Minutes, CBS, Oct. 2004.

3 Heather Hewett, “Telling It Like It Is: Rewriting the Opt-Out Narrative,” Mothersmovement.org, Oct. 3, 2005, http://www.mothersmovement.org/features/05/h_hewett_1005/opting_out_print.htm.

4 Ralph Gardner, Jr., “Mom vs. Mom,” New York, Oct. 21, 2002.

5 Ibid.

6 Miriam Peskowitz, The Truth Behind the Mommy Wars: Who Decides What Makes A Good Mother? (New York: Seal Press, 2005).

7 Judith Warner, “The Opt-Out Generation Wants Back In,” New York Times, Aug. 7, 2013.

8 Sylvia Ann Hewlett and Carolyn Buck Lace, “Off-Ramps and On-Ramps,” Harvard Business Review, March 2005.

9 “Life and Leadership after HBS,” Harvard Business School, May 2015.

10 “Millennials in the Workplace Reinforcements, Not Trophies,” Pew Research Center, April 12, 2016.

11 Jody Greenstone Miller and Matt Miller, “The Rise of the Supertemp,” Harvard Business Review, May 2012.

CHAPTER 12: WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

1 Meredith Levo, “Do You Feel Like a Fraud? You Might Have the Impostor Syndrome,” March 28, 2014, http://www.levo.com/articles/career-advice/female-boss-impostor-syndrome.