Imagine that you’re holding a performance review with an employee who (like most employees) is hoping for a pay increase. Unfortunately, you also know it’s not in the budget. Because you hate to disappoint this person—and because you don’t want her to think you think she doesn’t deserve more money—you say, “Well, Sarah, I fought for your pay increase but you know how they are over in Corporate. Sorry, they’re saying it’s not in the cards this year.” That’s we/theyism. It happens when a person positions themselves in a positive light by making someone else the “bad guy.” Many leaders resort to we/they regularly, not realizing how harmful it actually is. Typically, this is not a deliberate choice but a fallback position of leaders who haven’t been trained not to do it. They say things like: While we/they can make the leader seem like a hero by “fighting for” the employees, it has a deeply divisive effect on your culture. It can make employees feel adversarial toward leaders, and one department feel resentful of other departments—feelings that, in turn, cause communication breakdowns and hinder teamwork. Perhaps worst of all it fosters a victim mentality and discourages people from having an ownership mentality—after all, if the leader doesn’t “own” company decisions, why should employees? So, in the earlier example, what should the leader have said to Sarah instead of blaming Corporate? Perhaps it could have been something like “Sarah, you know it has been a rough couple of years. Sales are down 15 percent and no one is getting raises right now. But we have a great team, we’re all working hard, and I’m confident we can turn things around. In fact, if you have any suggestions to improve results, we’d love to hear them!” When we get in the habit of explaining the why and taking ownership, it promotes trust and transparency. By positioning things in a positive way, it creates a feeling of unity. This can dramatically improve morale and set the stage for better teamwork. Setting the right example will show employees there are better ways to approach challenges than finger pointing and blame shifting. As leaders, we can set the right example and discourage employees from resorting to we/theyism, too. A few tips: At the heart of everything, stamping out we/theyism is about ownership. When everyone “owns” the organization, understands the financials, has input into decisions, and works to solve their own problems, a victim mentality cannot thrive. There can’t really be a we/they problem when everyone is “we.” There can’t be winners and losers because everyone wins or loses together—leaders, employees, and ultimately, customers. It’s just a healthier way to work and live.