You’ve probably read at least one story this week involving allegations of workplace sexual harassment. From banking to entertainment, from media to tech and beyond, powerhouse men in almost every industry have been brought down because their workplace harassment was exposed. As we watch well-known figures fall, questions of “why” and “who knew what, when” swirl.
While the task of taking steps to prevent harassment isn’t easy, too many companies have taken an approach that has made it infinitely harder than it needs to be.
In a nutshell, here is the drumbeat of “solutions” we’ve heard for decades: Review and distribute your policy prohibiting sexual harassment; republish your promise of zero-tolerance and a harassment-free workplace; slap together a compliance training session to “teach” managers about unlawful harassment; train managers to document everything, have a witness for everything they do, run every decision by HR; and . . . well, you get the idea.
These “solutions” have failed. Miserably.
It’s time to explore new ways to solve the issue and reduce workplace drama.
Allegations of sexual harassment take many forms and include claims by men. However, the overwhelming majority of sexual harassment claims have two characteristics in common: they are brought by women, and the accusation is against a man in a position of greater power. For that reason, while recognizing that this is not always the case, I’ll use pronouns that match up with what we know is the most common scenario when it comes to sexual harassment.
In 1991 the entire nation was gripped with the testimony of a law professor named Anita Hill. She previously worked with Clarence Thomas at the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), where Justice Thomas had worked as director and Professor Hill served as his assistant director.
Though other women made accusations of sexually charged conduct, only Professor Hill testified before the Senate subcommittee in charge of Justice Thomas’s Supreme Court appointment. She testified about stories of Justice Thomas’s alleged unwanted sexual advances, which, she said, included asking her out, talking with her about pornography, and having other sexually charged conversations at work.
Her testimony was considered then (and is considered now) to be a watershed moment in the fight against workplace sexual harassment. Many, especially women who had endured behavior similar to that reported by Professor Hill, hoped that awareness of this issue would result in organizations corporate, public, for-profit, nonprofit, in all industries—taking the issue seriously and in turn taking steps to prevent and address it.
Professor Hill’s testimony had some impact. The most notable was the exponential increase in charges of sexual harassment filed with the EEOC. More companies developed policies prohibiting workplace harassment; harassment prevention training became a cottage industry (managers began to dread the reminder to attend the training session); and some women felt more comfortable with the idea of speaking up.
Unfortunately, it’s now abundantly clear that these changes were cosmetic, not systemic. Over the next 25-plus years, companies relied on these cosmetic tools to stave off claims of sexual harassment. But by focusing on this window dressing, they missed the big picture—the importance of creating an actual culture of respect and inclusion, not just policies that said “no harassment.” Many complaints were ignored, many men guilty of engaging in egregious conduct were allowed to get away with bad behavior (so long as they continued to be seen as valuable to the organization), and too many so-called unbiased workplace investigators conducted inquiries into allegations of misconduct to show that they “did something,” even if everyone knew nothing would really change.
And then, on October 10, 2017, the floodgates were opened and the #MeToo movement began. In a lengthy, well-vetted, and impeccably researched article, Ronan Farrow described behavior by powerful Hollywood producer Harvey Weinstein that spanned several decades and included sexual harassment and sexual assault.1 Over the next several months, more women came forward to describe the horrific behavior they suffered because of their contact with Weinstein, and also described decades of corporate complicity—colleagues and corporate leaders who knew about the behavior but did nothing to stop it. Also over the next months and into the one-year anniversary of the publication of this article, women felt empowered to speak about the harassment and abuse they’d suffered at the hands of powerful men in various industries.
During that time, corporate America responded differently than it did after the Anita Hill hearings. This time, many of the men faced consequences for the actions these women were able to corroborate and substantiate.
Additionally, although Congress has yet to pass any legislation related to workplace sexual harassment, a number of states, most notably the country’s two most populous states, California and New York, passed sweeping legislation sending a clear message to employers: Do all you can to prevent sexual harassment at work—or else!
There was, however, another side to the #MeToo movement. A small but growing number of men (and some women) began to express worry and confusion. Many began to worry about their contact with female colleagues or subordinates and we saw some of those men admitting that they were curbing their mentoring or other interactions with women. Although this phenomenon—men fearing the #MeToo movement has gone too far—is too detailed to discuss at length here, it is a reality that we saw in the contentious hearings in 2018 related to the confirmation of yet another Supreme Court justice, this time Brett Kavanaugh, who was accused of sexual assault by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford.
So the question is, where do we go from here? Can we take the energy created by all the attention on sexual harassment and harness it into ways to thoughtfully and methodically change our mindset and develop new and better solutions to prevent and fix this problem?
We can and we must.
A crucial issue that has made solving the sexual harassment problem more difficult than it needs to be is confusion and misunderstanding about what “sexual harassment” means and what it doesn’t mean. I’ll look at it from both a legal perspective and a real-life perspective.
The Civil Rights Act of 1964 (the federal law that prohibits discrimination based on certain protected categories) did not identify sexual coercion as unlawful. Starting in the 1970s, courts began to recognize quid pro quo (Latin for “this for that”) sexual harassment as a form of illegal gender discrimination.
While exploring every nuance of unlawful harassment is beyond the scope of this chapter or this book, the generally accepted definition for unlawful quid pro quo sexual harassment is: the loss or denial of a job benefit for refusal to cooperate sexually. That means that this type of harassment has a few distinct characteristics:
In the 1980s, courts began to recognize a second type of unlawful sexual harassment. Legal arguments were made that women were sometimes exposed to offensive behavior by colleagues, that the behavior didn’t necessarily involve a “this for that” request for sexual favors, and it didn’t always result in a tangible job loss. Thus, the law was expanded to recognize a new form of unlawful sexual harassment: “hostile work environment” harassment.
Details might differ from state to state, but generally speaking, a claim for hostile work environment sexual harassment requires proof of various components, including:
Finally, it’s important to define legal defenses since they are an important contributing factor to getting us to where we are today.
Attorneys who represent “management”—that is, organizations or individuals who have been sued for violating sexual harassment laws—have various legal defenses at their disposal to either convince a judge to dismiss a case before it even reaches a jury, or to convince a jury that there is no legal liability.
These defenses essentially track the legal elements and include (among numerous others):
This is an abbreviated discussion of a complex legal issue. However, if you’ve dealt with workplace harassment issues, you probably recognize some of these examples and now have a better understanding of why attorneys approach the issue from a purely legal angle. Too many attorneys, and now too many HR professionals and managers, focus exclusively on ways to avoid lawsuits, or begin developing defenses to a lawsuit, rather than focusing on creating a healthy culture. The irony, of course, is that this approach has done nothing to stem the tide of legal claims. (See more on thelitigation-avoidance paradox in Chapter 5.)
In short, this summary paints a picture of what’s going on in so many organizations. If the issue of harassment is viewed exclusively through a legal liability/risk reduction perspective, you can see that the incentive is to be in constant CYA mode.
If you ask 100 average employees to define “sexual harassment” you’ll get 100 different answers. My guess is that you won’t get one that includes the legal definitions outlined earlier.
It’s extremely unlikely that an employee (or frankly, even a seasoned manager) understands the nuances related to whether the behavior was “objectively and subjectively unwelcome,” and whether it was “severe or pervasive.” Instead, when we ask people to define sexual harassment, we tend to get answers that describe offensive actions and corresponding feelings: “It’s when someone at work says or does something that is sexual and it makes you uncomfortable,” “It’s when someone at work hits on you, you say no, and now things are awkward,” or similar statements.
Despite varying definitions, what is clear is that the public views “sexual harassment” as prevalent and problematic. In fact, research indicates that “anywhere from 25% to 85% of women report having experienced sexual harassment in the workplace.”2 A recent study by the Pew Research Center found that 6 in 10 women say they have been sexually harassed.3
As will be discussed below, the differences in the legal and layperson’s definitions of sexual harassment are vital to understanding and solving the issue. Too many companies have approached the issue through a legal lens, ignoring that it doesn’t match what most people believe is problematic workplace behavior. And even worse, too many companies take the view that the problem doesn’t require a response until it’s reached the critical point of illegality. This misses the point—early intervention and early resolution not only shield a company from legal liability, but they also get to the real goal of creating a healthy culture.
Our failure to distinguish between the legal and layperson’s definition of sexual harassment has also created a lack of distinction between bad behavior, worse behavior, and illegal behavior. All misconduct needs to be addressed, but the manner in which it is addressed will depend on a number of factors, including where the behavior falls on this continuum. Too many people have mistakenly lumped milder behavior into the same bucket as egregious conduct, making it harder to solve the problem.
This failure to recognize the varying severity of workplace conduct and the harm that it causes is displayed in the ubiquitous zero-tolerance policies embraced by so many companies. Without explaining nuances such as what behavior is not tolerated and what the consequences are for varying types of misconduct, these policies end up doing more harm than good. The implication is that the same price will be paid for one sexually tinged joked as for sexually charged physical conduct like sexual assault. In practice, this creates fear and confusion for men and women. Men think, “Will I be fired for making a joke or giving a compliment?” Women think, “I better not report the behavior since doing so might get that person fired [which is usually the implication in a zero-tolerance workplace].”
On the other end of the spectrum, failing to differentiate between bad, worse, and illegal behavior results in a decreased likelihood of addressing and resolving problems early. Sexual harassment often starts with milder behavior and escalates if no one stops it. Common precursors to workplace sexual harassment include sexist or misogynistic statements, a devaluation of women, behavior that shows gender bias, sharing offensive or sexually charged images or jokes, or milder physical contact (hugs, shoulder rubs). If companies aren’t precise about the behavioral continuum and send a message that giving a compliment is the same as demanding sex, employees (targets and witnesses) are less likely to intervene at the mild end of the behavior spectrum. That leaves the door wide open for mild behavior to quickly escalate and eventually become unlawful sexual harassment.
The irony about companies viewing legal principles as the enemy is that, when viewed correctly, the law provides a valuable framework that essentially amounts to a built-in methodology to simultaneously avoid legal liability and, more important, to create a healthy workplace culture.
With a few exceptions based on state law, organizations are generally shielded from legal liability if they can show they have taken reasonable steps to create an environment where employees feel safe reporting concerns, where those concerns are taken seriously and therefore investigated fully and fairly, and proactive and effective measures to stop any identified misconduct are taken. (For more on investigations, see Chapter 11.)
That means that taking a big-picture approach insulates companies from lawsuits not only because happy employees tend not to sue their employers, but also because companies are not legally liable if they have an environment in which employees are given tools to resolve issues before they escalate, are provided with a number of avenues to raise concerns if they need help solving issues, trust the system to investigate allegations of misconduct, and know their company deals with proven cases of misconduct in an even-handed way.
Viewed this way, the law actually provides employers with a road map for preventing lawsuits. In fact, the law provides an almost foolproof early intervention system that should encourage employers to welcome complaints of misconduct. Here’s how:
For companies that are ready to do away with compliance blinders and instead focus on culture, consider making an early-intervention system a formal part of your workplace.
As outlined above, the law essentially provides built-in guardrails. Take advantage of those safeguards. Establish authentic methods to prevent misconduct and establish ways to make sure misconduct doesn’t rise to the level of illegality. Ever. If you know about misconduct, don’t turn a blind eye to it. Address issues early by teaching employees to resolve conflict on their own when possible, but make it clear that management is there to help when that’s not possible. If you do find out about misconduct, through observation or a report, address it. Investigate it and fix it if you find a problem. And fix it every time and in an even-handed way.
Re-read this paragraph. This is what the law says you must do. And if you take these steps, you’ve complied with the law. Even better, if you do these things, you’re guaranteed to make your culture healthier, and you’ll drastically reduce workplace drama.
If you’re ready to establish a formal early-intervention system, simply take those requirements and flip them around:
It’s time to stop viewing sexual harassment law as an enemy or something companies must endure. Instead, take advantage of the roadmap the law provides so that you not only eliminate the risk of liability, but you also eliminate drama along the way.
There are numerous root causes of workplace harassment, but research and experience tell us there are three in particular that correlate strongly to the presence of sexual harassment at work.
A comprehensive study of workplace sexual harassment confirms what practitioners have known for decades: The strongest predictor of organizational sexual harassment is a corporate culture that tolerates the behavior. In other words, a company that accepts, enables, or encourages misconduct will have a sexual harassment problem.4
A landmark 2018 report summarizes leading research on the topic and finds that harassment is less likely to occur in organizations that take it seriously. Specifically, a healthy culture:
These are critical points and worth reiterating.
In an organization that is serious about creating a culture of trust and respect, bad actors are less likely to misbehave.
In an organization that is serious about creating a culture of trust and respect, employees feel safe speaking up about misconduct, whether it’s targeted toward them or others.
If we’re serious about stopping harassment in its tracks, it’s time to change the corporate mindset from compliance and complicity to courage and compassion.
The second most potent predictor of sexual harassment identified by the 2018 study is whether men outnumber women at an organization, especially if that gender disparity occurs at the top of the organizational chart.5
Having too few women, especially in leadership, means the issue of harassment is viewed through a one-sided lens. Men and women view issues related to harassment differently. Not better. Not worse. Just differently.
I have a vivid recollection of an SAT question that discombobulated me when I took the test in high school. It was back when the SAT had word analogies as part of its vocabulary section. The question was: “running is to marathon as rowing is to ___.” All four choices might as well have been written in Greek (the right answer, I found out later after looking it up, was “regatta”).
I’m in immigrant from El Salvador who grew up mostly in the inner city, so it goes without saying that there were no regattas in my ‘hood.
This example perfectly captures the problem with assuming that we all understand the same things. While I’d like to think that the majority of male corporate leaders have good intentions and do their best to discourage sexual harassment, it would, simply put, be immensely helpful to have women (plural) in the room to give the context and nuance that male leaders typically do not have the life experience to understand, just like I didn’t have the life experience to know about regattas.
In a first-of-its-kind study, Emtrain partnered with In the House to survey in-house counsel on issues related to workplace sexual harassment. One key finding was that there is a gender divide when it comes to identifying harassing or offensive behavior, and an equally wide gulf between perceptions of whether women suffer negative repercussions as a result of objecting to unwelcome conduct.
“Simply put: men and women do not see eye-to-eye when it comes to the presence of sexual harassment.” The data showed that “[W]hile zero percent of men [surveyed] perceived sexual harassment as being ‘very prevalent’ at their company, 3% of women did. At the other end of the spectrum, while 23% of men [surveyed] said sexual harassment was nonexistent in their organization, less than half as many—only 10%—of women believed this was the case.”6
The gender divide was most prominently displayed in a side-by-side comparison using both internal and external research data:
Whereas 6 in 10 male respondents in the Emtrain/In the House survey said sexual harassment rarely or never occurs in their workplace, a 2018 study by the Pew Research Center found that 6 in 10 women say they have been exposed to sexual harassment in the workplace (see Figure 2.1).7
These statistics came to life in the survey comments. The striking contrast between the perception of the prevalence of behavior that might be called out as “harassing” was highlighted in two divergent comments:
Beyond the issue of whether harassment is prevalent, survey participants were asked about the effectiveness of their companies’ reporting, investigation, and resolution systems. Taking just one data point on this topic, many more women (27%) as compared to men (12%) reported that employees did not feel comfortable reporting misconduct.
One woman shared her experience. Her comment illustrates one important reason for the underreporting: “When I reported behavior [involving] 4.5 years’ worth of incidents, the investigation took less than 24 hours, I was put on a PIP [performance improvement plan], then laid off the next week with no severence. And, this [was in] big oil.”9
In fact, a significant percentage of in-house attorneys responding to the survey pointed to working in male-dominated industries or companies.
The research on the topic of the gender divide points to the same conclusion—women must be equally represented at the table of influence that determines the best ways to prevent and address workplace sexual harassment. Organizations that are making decisions on the topic based only on their male leaders’ view of sexual harassment are missing a critical voice in that decision-making.
Frank Dobbins, a Harvard professor known for his groundbreaking research on issues of harassment and diversity, put it this way:
Male-dominated management teams have been found to tolerate, sanction, or even expect sexualized treatment of workers, which can lead to a culture of complicity. People may chuckle over misbehavior rather than calling it out, for example, or they may ostracize harassed women, privately ashamed of not having spoken up. Reducing power differentials can help, not only because women are less likely than men to harass but also because their presence in management can change workplace culture.10
The combination of a culture of complicity and a male-dominated leadership creates an environment that could give rise to workplace sexual harassment. An additional ingredient that creates an even stronger likelihood of sexual misconduct at work is leadership that views issues through a narrow compliance lens.
Anyone who has attended a compliance workshop has heard phrases such as “document everything” (which becomes code for “we want to have documented evidence for the inevitable lawsuit”), “always have a witness and get things signed” (which becomes code for “we don’t trust our employees . . . they will almost certainly call you a liar at some point”), and my favorite “if it isn’t in writing, it didn’t happen” (which becomes code for “judges and juries lose all common sense when making decisions and will see you as a liar if you don’t write everything down”).
Just how preposterous is the most-often given legal advice of “document everything” and “if you didn’t document it, it didn’t happen”? Let’s put it in a different context.
Imagine Maria Portokolas telling Toula the night before Toula’s big fat Greek wedding, “You know, Toula, the key to a happy marriage is to assume your husband will cheat and lie. My advice? Save all email exchanges and document your conversations with Ian so that when your attorney litigates your divorce, you can take Ian to the cleaners because of all the great evidence you’ve saved.”
Crazy, right?
So why do we listen to the same silly advice when it comes from an employment attorney? Regardless of the underlying nature of a relationship, when one or both parties enters it with a sense of inevitable gloom and doom, the self-fulfilling prophecy cycle kicks in and you can expect to hit the skids faster than Gus Portokalos can whip out a bottle of Windex.
Rather than sending a message of: “We trust our employees and strive to treat them respectfully, share information with them transparently, and provide a safe and inclusive environment,” companies with this outlook send the opposite message: “We are paranoid about getting sued by our employees and therefore will give lip service to wanting to create a healthy culture, but what we really mean is that we will take defensive measures to keep you in your place.”
That’s hardly the message that a company striving for a healthy and inclusive culture—and a reduction of workplace drama—wants to send.
The causes of sexual harassment are complex, and while identifying the three big-picture predictors of workplace sexual harassment is vital, it is important to understand the parts that individuals play.
There are a number of issues that research and experience show influence a harasser’s decision to misbehave. They include:
Abraham Lincoln said, “Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.”
A reality that impacts the frequency and severity of sexually harassing behavior at work is whether the harasser sees himself as so powerful that he is above the rules, essentially untouchable.
Many of the men accused of sexually inappropriate conduct, especially the ones featured in high-profile news stories, have (or had) immense power. For these industry powerhouses, the temptation to (ab)use that power is apparently so strong that they find themselves flexing their corporate muscle far beyond the board room. And in many instances, the men featured in headlines are not only sexual predators, they’re also notorious for overly aggressive behavior, exhibiting a strong taste for intimidation tactics to satisfy their hypercompetitive egos.
For example, when asked how he could assault women so easily, Harvey Weinstein said, “I’m used to that.”11
But why is it that only a percentage of influential men abuse their power to the point of engaging in sexual harassment? Is it possible to identify behavioral red flags? And if so, can they be spotted early so that problematic conduct can be dealt with swiftly and effectively?
In fact, research by Zeigler-Hill et al. (2016), uncovers a “dark triad” of personality traits linked to sexual harassment. The three identified psychological characteristics of a “typical” sexual harasser are narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism.
The study defines narcissism as “malevolent behaviors associated with grandiose identity,” psychopathy as “malevolent behaviors associated with impulsivity,” and Machiavellianism as “malevolent behaviors associated with long-term strategies.” The results suggest that this “dark triad” of traits is associated with a propensity to engage in sexual harassment.12
If referring to the “dark triad” is too abstract, try taking a page from Bob Sutton who wrote the book, The No Assholes Rule: Building a Civilized Workplace and Surviving One That Isn’t.13 Though Sutton is a Stanford University professor and organizational psychologist, he presents his theories in a no-nonsense way that makes it no wonder that his book is a best seller. He makes an important distinction between “temporary assholes” and “certified assholes” and uses the following questions to put people into the right category:
If the answer to both these questions is “yes,” Sutton says, then you are officially a “certified asshole.” In fact, Sutton created a test he calls the Asshole Rating Self-Exam (ARSE), which uses 24 nonscientific questions to help people determine where they fall on the spectrum.14 A testament to the amount of work we have to do in this area, as of 2017, more than 400,000 people had taken the test.
Does this mean that high-powered men who exhibit even some of these traits will engage in harassment? No, but they are red flags. And if most companies are honest, they are usually able to distinguish between a strong and decisive leader, and an abusive one.
These realities become more potent when the workplace includes a power imbalance. To the extent a powerful man abuses or harasses a woman, he most often exerts that power toward women in a less powerful position, often reminding the woman that he has the power to make or break her.
The bottom line is that most harassers harass because they can. This begs the question: How can we flip the script so that it is clear that they can’t?
A commitment to a “harassment-free” workplace or even a commitment to a diverse and inclusive one isn’t enough—company leaders must develop a systematic approach to ensure accountability.
While looking at issues related to the bad actors is important, it’s equally important to explore issues related to the victims of harassment and witnesses of the misconduct to get a complete view.
Despite laws prohibiting harassment, decades of companies focusing on creating “zero-tolerance” policies, and lawsuits exposing distressing examples of workplace misconduct, we have failed to do away with workplace harassment. A fact brought to light by the #MeToo movement is that sexual harassment is widespread. Many, including those of us who have been in the business of workplace drama for decades, know that the examples highlighted by #MeToo are only the tip of the iceberg.
The 2016 EEOC report explored the issue of the prevalence of workplace harassment, the differing definitions of harassment, and the phenomena of severe underreporting of the misconduct. As noted earlier, various metrics put the percentage of women exposed to harassment or sexually charged or gender-biased behavior at work at anywhere between 25% and 85%.15 The Pew study previously cited puts that percentage at 60%.16
Unfortunately, the vast majority of misconduct is not reported. In fact, the evidence is overwhelming: Most misconduct involving sexually charged or gender-biased behavior is never reported internally (through employer-sanctioned complaint systems) or externally (through governmental enforcement agencies or in the court system). The EEOC report cites data indicating that “roughly three out of four individuals who experience harassment never even talked to a supervisor, manager, or union representative about the harassing conduct.”17
The report also cites research exploring the reasons for the failure to report. In short, the researchers conclude, “employees . . . fail to report the harassing behavior or to file a complaint because they fear disbelief of their claim, inaction on their claim, blame, or social or professional retaliation.”18
Bystanders are individuals who either observe misconduct firsthand or hear about the misconduct from someone else. This includes both “passive” bystanders (those who take no action) and “active” bystanders (those who take action to prevent or reduce the harm—often referred to as upstanders).
An approach most cutting-edge workplaces are taking is to focus on helping witnesses go from passive bystanders to active upstanders.
Upstanders can, individually or collectively, have a tremendous impact on workplace sexual harassment—preventing it, stopping it early so that it doesn’t escalate, and helping to fix it if it does occur. Upstanders have opportunities to help by reporting the problem on behalf of the target, supporting the target in making a complaint, offering support or advice to the target, or directly confronting the bad actor (as the conduct occurs or afterwards).
It’s helpful to outline the general ways in which bystanders can and must play a role to achieve our goal to prevent and address harassment. One important issue is exploring what motivates a bystander to act. There have been numerous studies looking into “bystander apathy.” The studies that specifically look into the issue at work have identified several factors that influence a bystander’s decision whether to act, including:19
In short, an observer’s decision about whether to intervene (individually or collectively) depends on the perceived costs and benefits of speaking up.
Companies would be wise to educate everyone on ways in which they can become responsible upstanders to stop bad behavior before it escalates.
Every one of the issues related to individuals, while important, only serves to highlight the importance of the overall corporate climate. Even if an employee (or leader) with a propensity to harass joins a company, the chances of harassment actually occurring are minimal if that company has an authentic culture of respect and inclusion. In a healthy culture, these employees will either temper their behavior once they get the message that it’s unacceptable, or they’ll be stopped in their tracks by brave employees who know their company has their back (or the bad actor will opt to leave the company if he isn’t allowed to do what he wants).
A few themes emerge from a careful review of the various causes of workplace sexual harassment. Each one provides insight and ultimately gives us a road map to create actionable solutions to prevent and address workplace sexual harassment:
Communicate your values clearly and persuasively. Begin with an authentic message that your company stands for respect, civility, and belonging. Define, live, and color that message in. Tell your employees and your leaders what you expect in terms of behavior, integrity, and ethics. Be very specific—without specifics, people will interpret “harassment,” “inappropriate,” “unprofessional,” and “civil” in varying ways.
Communication is a two-way street; do your part as a corporate leader to communicate precisely and persuasively, especially on complex and sensitive issues like workplace harassment.
Here are some tips on using communication skills to effectively identify, prevent, and stop harassment:
Advertise something unique: your company’s early-intervention system. Make everyone comfortable with early intervention. This means employees and bystanders. It also means HR, the legal department, and members of the C-suite. A courageous culture equals a proactive culture. A proactive culture is always one step ahead of misconduct.
Despite myths and legends that have convinced many workplace leaders to see the law as the enemy, be audacious enough to view legal principles about sexual harassment as your best friend and your best defense against a lawsuit.
How do you do this? You follow the early-intervention system that the law has laid out for us, but that no one has bothered to engage.
Encourage reports. Really. View reports as your best opportunity to deal with workplace drama early. Before it becomes too big to solve.
Be a champion for a culture of truth-telling: Reinvent corporate attitudes toward reporting workplace concerns. Employees are talking—and what they’re sharing often isn’t pretty. If they’re not sharing stories at work, they’re posting on employer review sites, sharing on social media, or writing blogs: Employees will get the word out. Today’s reality means that ignoring the problem of sexual harassment in your workplace doesn’t make it go away, it only robs you of the opportunity to control the narrative.
It pays to be proactive—and to encourage employees to do the same. If you become aware of issues related to overly aggressive, wholly unprofessional, or harassing conduct, deal with it. Quickly. Fairly. Employers who take this type of proactive stance are almost always able to address issues before they become impossible to fix. Think of the time, energy, and money you’ll save by nipping issues in the bud. And imagine the brand reputation you’ll create as a result.
Don’t just pay these concepts lip service. Do more than develop an employee resource group or expand your recruitment efforts to attract diverse candidates. Hold people accountable—for doing good and for behaving badly. And make sure your practice of accountability is fair, consistent, and even-handed.
If you’re worried about pay equity, then be proactive and courageous—take a page out of the Salesforce playbook. When two brave members of Salesforce’s executive team (both women) took their concerns about possible pay equity to the company’s CEO, they hardly expected that he would not only agree to conduct an audit, but that he’d be willing to fix any gaps they found, that he’d be willing to share what the company did with others, and that he’d make that a constant project since he knew that taking your eye off the equity ball would get you right back to where you started.20 Now that’s courage personified and it’s a genuine commitment to inclusion and equity.
And when it comes to making decisions about how to discipline those who engage in misconduct, be equally meticulous about sticking to your promise to be fair and equitable. Skip the short-sighted cost-benefit analysis: “It was a business decision” is a justification many companies who cover up for serial sexual harassers offer for their actions.
Every time a company makes a decision based on the “value” the harasser brings, they neglect to do simple math—by failing to subtract the cost of keeping him around. And that cost adds up to much more than just settlement amounts and legal fees. It’s also high employee turnover, low productivity, dipping morale, and an incredibly negative effect on brand reputation—not to mention adding a hefty “crisis management” line item to your P&L.
In short, there is no good business reason for tolerating this behavior. And beyond the “traditional” business analysis of looking at profit and loss, a company that tolerates, enables, or encourages this behavior will send a strong message about its culture—and the message is one that fewer employees find tolerable. This then becomes an issue of brand management, talent acquisition, and retention.
You can’t go wrong if you keep equity and inclusion at the center of your decisions.
Develop a comprehensive plan to make sure everyone at your company knows that issues related to the health of your corporate culture is a journey, not just a one-time event to celebrate the launch of your new mission statement.
Don’t get me wrong, I want you to celebrate when you finish the hard work of updating your mission statement or your workplace policies. Just don’t stop there.
Make sure you develop timelines for reviewing your work. If you implement new ways to deal with sexual harassment, understand that you will need to test and tweak those new systems. Make sure your employees understand that you’re committed to this endeavor. That you don’t see this as a one-and-done task, but rather as a long-standing and authentic commitment to creating a healthy workplace culture.
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Implementing these five action steps is a great place to start on the road to identifying, preventing and addressing sexual harassment. By doing so, you’ll reduce or maybe even eliminate workplace drama. And although I’ve said this a few times, it’s worth repeating, especially when discussion is related to sexual harassment. Nothing in this chapter or in this book is meant to restrict employee fun. Respectful does not equate to boring. Professional need not be the same as robotic. Inclusive doesn’t mean monotonous. Your workplace can (and should) be simultaneously committed to respect, civility, and inclusion and to playfulness, friendship, and lightheartedness.