FURTHER RESOURCES

The following are some of my favorite books, authors, and websites on the topics of conflict, communication, aikido, and personal and organizational effectiveness. I wish you well in your exploration and practice.

Books

Crum, Thomas. The Magic of Conflict. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1987.

Crum, Thomas. Journey to Center. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997.

Crum, Thomas. Three Deep Breaths. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 2006.

Edmondson Amy C. Teaming. San Francisco: John Wiley & Sons, 2012.

Fisher, Roger, and William Ury. Getting to Yes. New York: Penguin Books, 1991.

Goldsmith, Marshall. Triggers. New York: Penguin Books, 2015.

Goleman, Daniel. Emotional Intelligence. New York: Bantam Books, 1997.

Kahane, Adam. Power and Love: A Theory and Practice of Social Change. San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, 2010.

Mindell, Adam. Metaskills. Tempe, AZ.: New Falcon Publications, 1995.

Mindell, Arnold. The Leader as Martial Artist: An Introduction to Deep Democracy. San Francisco: HarperCollins, 1992.

Mitchell, Barbara, and Cornelia Gamlem. The Essential Workplace Conflict Handbook. Wayne, NJ: Career Press, 2015.

Patterson, Kerry, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When the Stakes Are High. New York: McGraw-Hill, 2002.

Pink, Daniel H. To Sell Is Human. New York: Penguin Books, 2012.

Ringer, Judy. Unlikely Teachers: Finding the Hidden Gifts in Daily Conflict. Portsmouth, NH: OnePoint Press, 2006.

Runde, Craig E., and Tim A. Flanagan. Developing Your Conflict Competency. San Francisco: John Wiley & Sons, 2010.

Scott, Kim. Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity. New York: St. Martin's Press, 2017.

Smith, Diana McLain. The Elephant in the Room: How Relationships Make or Break the Success of Leaders and Organizations. San Francisco: Wiley/Jossey-Bass, 2011.

Stone, Douglas, Bruce Patton, and Sheila Heen. Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most. New York: Viking Penguin, 1999.

Stone, Douglas, and Sheila Heen. Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well. New York: Viking Penguin, 2014.

Ury, William. The Power of a Positive No. New York: Bantam Books, 2008.

Warner, Judith S. From Chaos to Center. Aspen, CO: Aiki Works, Inc., 1999.

Wise, Will. Ask Powerful Questions: Create Conversations That Matter. Highland Park, IL.: Round Table Companies, 2017.

Aikido philosophy, technique, and applications

Bryner, Andy, and Dawna Markova. An Unused Intelligence. Berkeley: Conari Press, 1996.

Dobson, Terry. Aikido in Everyday Life: Giving In to Get Your Way. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 1993.

Leonard, George. The Way of Aikido, Life Lessons from an American Sensei. New York: Penguin Books, 2000.

Palmer, Wendy. The Practice of Freedom: Aikido Principles as a Spiritual Guide. Berkeley: Rodmell Press, 2002.

Ringer, Judy. Ki Moments blog, Portsmouth, NH: OnePoint Press, 2006.

Stevens, John. The Philosophy of Aikido. New York: Kodansha International, 2001.

Strozzi-Heckler, John. Aikido and the New Warrior. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books, 1985.

Websites, Blogs, and Videos

The following websites and links offer information, books, videos, exercises, newsletters, and excellent articles on aikido, difficult conversations, conflict transformation, and leadership.

Blogs and Videos

Celeste Headlee, “10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation,” TED (blog), May 2015, https://www.ted.com

Margaret Heffernan, “Dare to Disagree,” filmed June 2012 at TED Global, TED video, https://www.ted.com

Kathryn Schultz, “On Being Wrong,” filmed March 2011, TED video, https://www.ted.com

Julian Treasure, “5 Ways to Listen Better,” filmed July 2011 at TED Global, TED video, https://www.ted.com

Websites

Action Design; The Ladder of Inference:
https://www.actiondesign.com

Aiki Works; Thomas Crum:
http://aikiworks.com

Leadership Embodiment; Wendy Palmer:
http://www.leadershipembodiment.com

Power & Presence; Judy Ringer:
https://www.judyringer.com

Triad Consulting; Difficult Conversations:
http://triadconsultinggroup.com

Vital Smarts; Crucial Conversations:
https://www.vitalsmarts.com

What Is Essential; Public Conversations Project:
https://www.whatisessential.org