Notes

¹See the article “Emotional Intelligence,” by P Salovey and J. D. Mayer, Imagination, Cognition, and Personality, Vol. 9, 1990, p.186.

²See the book The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness by Gary Zukav and Linda Francis (New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001).

³See the book Practicing the Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle (Novato, CA: New World Library, 2001), p. 24.

⁴Hooked on Feeling Bad: 3 Steps to Living a Life You Love! by Joyce Moskowitz (Davie, FL: Clear Vision Publishing, 2000) p. 122.

⁵See the book Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth by Richard J. Foster (San Francisco: HarperSanFrancisco, 1998) p. 2.

⁶See the article “Emotional Capability, Emotional Intelligence, and Radical Change,” by Quy Nguyen Huy, Academy of Management Review, Vol. 24, 1999, pp. 325–345.

⁷See the article “Progress on a Cognitive-Motivational-Relational Theory of Emotion” by R. S. Lazarus, American Psychologist, Vol. 46, 1991, pp. 819–834 (quote is on p. 820).

⁸For more information on this area of research, see the article “Emotion Regulation: Affective, Cognitive, and Social Consequences” by James J. Gross, Psychophysiology, Vol. 39, 2002, pp. 281-291.

⁹Ibid., p. 282.

¹⁰Ibid., p. 282; and J. J. Gross, “The Emerging Field of Emotion Regulation: An Integrative Review,” Review of General Psychology, Vol. 2, 1998, pp. 271-299.

¹¹See A. M. Isen, “The Influence of Positive and Negative Affect on Cognitive Organization: Some Implications for Development,” in N. Stein, B. Leventhal and J. Trabasso (eds.), Psychology and Biological Approaches to Emotion (Hillsdale, NJ: Lawrence, Erlbaum Associates, 1990), pp. 75–94; and A. M. Isen, K. A. Daubman, and G. P Nowicki, “Positive Affect Facilitates Creative Problem Solving.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, Vol. 52, 1987, pp. 1122–1131.

¹²Edward Vela, “Emotion in the Classroom,” Teaching Excellence, Vol. 12, 2000–2001, pp. 1–2.

¹³This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 110.

¹⁴”The Autobiography of Charles Darwin” from The Life and Letters of Charles Darwin, edited by Francis Darwin (various editions available).

¹⁵For a comprehensive description of self-leadership and how it can be applied to enhance personal effectiveness, see Mastering Self-Leadership: Empowering Yourself for Personal Excellence, 2nd ed. by Charles C. Manz and Christopher P Neck (Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1999).

¹⁶This quote is from the book The Wisdom of Menopause: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing During the Change by Christiane Northrup (New York: Bantam Books, 2001), p. 57.

¹⁷Both of these quotes are taken from the online article “Sports Guru Phil” by Mark Rowland, Los Angeles Magazine, June 2000, pp.1–7 (p. 2).

¹⁸For more insight regarding Phil Jackson’s unorthodox, even spiritual, coaching methods see the book Sacred Hoops by Phil Jackson and Hugh Delehanty (New York: Hyperion, 1995).

¹⁹See the article “Emotion Regulation: Affective, Cognitive, and Social Consequences” by James J. Gross, Psychophysiology , Vol. 39, 2002, pp. 281–291.

²⁰See the article “Emotion in the Workplace: The New Challenge for Managers” by Neal M. Ashkanasy and Catherine S. Daus, Academy of Management Executive, Vol. 16, 2002, pp. 76–86.

²¹For more information on this study, see the article “‘Short’ Gene Linked to Fear” (originally published in the Los Angeles Times), Daily Hampshire Gazette (North Hampton, MA), July 19, 2002, Vol. 216, pp. A1, A7.

²²This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 317.

²³See the article “How the Bust Saved Silicon Valley… Silicon Valley Reboots,” Newsweek, March 25, 2002, p. 42.

²⁴Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1984).

²⁵See Daniel Goleman, Emotional Intelligence, (New York: Bantam, 1995).

²⁶See the book Working with Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman (New York: Bantam, 1998), p. 317.

²⁷See the article “Emotional Intelligence as a Moderator of Emotional and Behavioral Reactions to Job Insecurity” by Peter J. Jordan, Neal M. Ashkanasy, and Charmine E. J. Hartel, Academy of Management Review, Vol. 27, 2002, pp. 361–372.

²⁸Daniel Goleman, Richard Boyatzis, and Annie McKee, Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence (Boston: Massachusetts: Harvard Business School Press, 2002).

²⁹See the article “Four Pillars of Excellence” by Steve Ballmer, Executive Excellence, Vol. 19, April 2002, pp. 3–4.

³⁰This quote is from the book Beating the Street by Peter Lynch with John Rothchild (New York: Simon & Schuster, 1993), p. 36.

³¹This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 302.

³²Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are (New York: Hyperion, 1994).

³³This quote is from the book The Tao of Leadership, a translation of Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching by John Heider (New York: Bantam, 1986) p. 135.

³⁴Ibid., p. 137.

³⁵For more on effective ways to turn external attacks into helpful energy, see the book Getting to Yes 2nd ed., by Roger Fisher and William Ury (New York: Penguin Books, 1991).

³⁶See the essay by Martin Rutte, “Spirituality in the Workplace,” included in the book Heart at Work edited by Jack Canfield and Jacqueline Miller (New York, McGraw-Hill, 1996), p. 247.

³⁷This quote is taken from the book Quotable Women: A Collection of Shared Thoughts (Philadelphia, PA: Running Press, 1994).

³⁸These excerpts are taken from the book You Can Be Happy No Matter What by Richard Carlson (Novato, CA: New World Library, 1997), pp. 121–129.

³⁹For more about what the Dalai Lama has to say about happiness and the choices that we make that cause us unhappiness, see the book The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living by the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler (New York: Riverhead Books, 1998). The specific quotes used in this passage appear on page 151.

⁴⁰See the book Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life by Jon Kabat-Zinn (New York: Hyperion, 1994), p. 4.

⁴¹Richard Carlson, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff… and It’s All Small Stuff (New York: Hyperion, 1997), p.173.

⁴²This quote is taken from the book Quotable Women: A Collection of Shared Thoughts (Philadelphia, PA: Running Press, 1994).

⁴³See the essay by Bill Gates “New Rules for the Age of Information” contained in the book The Little Book of Business Wisdom, edited by Peter Krass (New York: Wiley, 2001), pp. 8–11.

⁴⁴This information is based in part on the booklet A Pocket Guide to NLP (Niles, IL: Nightengale–Conant Corporation, 1991) that accompanies the audiotape-based learning program titled NLP: The New Technology of Achievement, p. 6.

⁴⁵For some detailed home training containing more information and techniques for practicing NLP, you may want to consider the Nightengale-Conant distributed audiotape programs titled NLP: The New Technology of Achievement, (1991) and Success Mastery with NLP (1992).

⁴⁶This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 310.

⁴⁷Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking, Centennial Edition (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1952, 1978), p. 86.

⁴⁸See, for example, the new book by Martin Seligman Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment (New York: Free Press, 2003).

⁴⁹See, for example, the article “Positive Organizational Behavior: Developing and Managing Psychological Strengths for Performance Improvement” by Fred Luthans, Academy of Management Executive, forthcoming 2002, and the book Positive Organizational Scholarship by Kim S. Cameron, Jane E. Dutton and Robert E. Quinn (San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler, forthcoming 2003).

⁵⁰Martin E. P. Seligman, Learned Optimism (New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1991), p. 16.

⁵¹Norman Vincent Peale, The Power of Positive Thinking, Centennial Edition (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1952, 1978), p. 86.

⁵²Fred Fengler and Todd Varnum, Manifesting Your Heart’s Desire (Burlington, VT: HeartLight Publishing, 1994, 2000).

⁵³See the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1960) and the newer release The New Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz and Dan S. Kennedy (Englewood Cliffs, NJ: Prentice Hall, 2002).

⁵⁴The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living by His Holiness the Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler (New York: Riverhead Books, 1998), pp. 68–69.

⁵⁵For more information on a very similar technique, see the book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy (especially chapters ⁴, ⁵ and ⁶) by David D. Burns (New York: Avon Books, 1999).

⁵⁶This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p.156.

⁵⁷This quote is taken from the book Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn (New York: Hyperion, 1994), p. 18.

⁵⁸The Medical Advisor: The Complete Guide to Alternative and Conventional Treatments, by the Editors of Time-Life Books (Alexandria, VA: Time-Life, 1997).

⁵⁹See especially pages 203–207 of the book by Andrew Weil, Spontaneous Healing: How to Discover and Enhance Your Body’s Natural Ability to Maintain and Heal Itself (New York: Fawcett Columbine Books, 1995).

⁶⁰See the article “Bush Pushes Fitness Message,” by Lawrence L. Knutson, Boston Globe, June 23, 2002, p. A16.

⁶¹See the section titled “Health & Medicine: Don’t Just Sit There” in the May 1, 2000 issue of the Wall Street Journal, pp R1-R20.

⁶²For more information on executives’ fitness, see the articles “Fit to Lead: Is Fitness the Key to Effective Executive Leadership?” by Christopher P. Neck, T. L. Mitchell, Charles C. Manz, Kenneth H. Cooper, and Emmet C. Thompson, II, Journal of Managerial Psychology, Vol. 15, 2000, pp. 833-840; and “The Fit Executive: Exercise and Diet Guidelines for Enhanced Performance,” by Christopher P. Neck and Kenneth H. Cooper, Academy of Management Executive, Vol. 14, 2000, pp. 72–83.

⁶³Andrew Weil, Spontaneous Healing: How to Discover and Enhance Your Body’s Natural Ability to Maintain and Heal Itself (New York: Fawcett Columbine Books, 1995), p. 187.

⁶⁴For detailed information on the relation between how we feel and food and advice on how to effectively manage this process, see the book Food & Mood: The Complete Guide to Eating Well and Feeling Your Best, 2nd ed. by Elizabeth Somer (New York: Owl Books, 1999).

⁶⁵See the article “HealthSmart” by Tedd Mitchell, M.D., USA Today Weekend, December 29–31, 2000, p. 4. For more specifics and strategies for healthy eating, see Dr. Mitchell’s column “Eat your Way to Better Heath,” published January 21–23, 2000, p. 4, and for more specific strategies on exercise and fitness, see his article “Renew Your Fitness Vows,” published March 10–11, 2000, p. 4.

⁶⁶See the article “Resolve to be ‘Good’ 80% of the Time” by Tedd Mitchell, M.D., USA Today Weekend, December 31, 1999–January 2, 2000, p. 4.

⁶⁷These quotes are taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), pp. 223 and 163.

⁶⁸The Mozart Effect: Tapping the Power of Music to Heal the Body, Strengthen the Mind, and Unlock the Creative Spirit by Don Campbell (New York: Quill, 2001).

⁶⁹The audiotape program Optimal Health by Jim Loehr, Nick Hall, and Jack Groppel (Niles, IL: Nightengale-Conant, 1996).

⁷⁰Norman Cousins, Head First: The Biology of Hope and the Healing Power of the Human Spirit, (New York: Penguin, 1990).

⁷¹C. W. Metcalf, Lighten Up!: The Amazing Power of Grace Under Pressure (Niles, IL: Nightengale-Conant, 1994).

⁷²This passage is taken from the chapter “Sam Walton: Sam’s Rules for Building a Business” in the book The Little Book of Business Wisdom: Rules of Success from More Than 50 Business Legends, edited by Peter Krass (New York: Wiley & Sons, 2001) p. 124.

⁷³The Medical Advisor: The Complete Guide to Alternative and Conventional Treatments, by the Editors of Time-Life Books (Alexandria, VA: Time-Life, 1997), p. 21.

⁷⁴Ibid., p. 20.

⁷⁵For example, in the audio program Mentally Fit Forever: How to Boost Brain Power at Any Age (Niles, IL: Nightengale-Conant, 1999), Lee Pulos suggests a nine-step technique on tape side 3 of the program and on pages 12–13 of the accompanying booklet that he claims almost completely eliminates stress. It involves tapping certain points around the eyes and under the nose and mouth, and then next to the sternum and on the hand.

⁷⁶This technique is recommended in The Medical Advisor: The Complete Guide to Alternative and Conventional Treatments, by the Editors of Time-Life Books (Alexandria, VA: Time-Life, 1997), p. 137.

⁷⁷This quote is from the book The Tao of Tai-Chi Chuan: Way to Rejuvenation by Jou, Tsung Hwa and edited by Shoshana Shapiro (Warwick, New York: The Tai-Chi Foundation, 1991), pp. A15–16.

⁷⁸For a good introduction to qigong, see the book QiGong for Beginners by Stanley D. Wilson (New York: Sterling Publishing Co., 1997). Another book on the subject is Secrets of QiGong by Angus Clark (DK Pub Merchandise, 2001).

⁷⁹The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tai Chi and QiGong by Bill Douglas (Indianapolis, IN: Alpha Books, 1999), p. 4.

⁸⁰For more information on tai chi, many books are available, including The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Tai Chi and QiGong by Bill Douglas (Indianapolis, IN: Alpha Books, 1999) and The Tao of Tai-Chi Chuan: Way to Rejuvenation by Jou, Tsung Hwa and edited by Shoshana Shapiro (Warwick, New York: The Tai-Chi Foundation, 1991).

⁸¹QiGong for Beginners by Stanley D. Wilson (New York: Sterling Publishing Co., 1997).

⁸²This passage is adapted from material in the book Mastering Self-Leadership: Empowering Yourself for Personal Excellence, 2nd ed. by Charles C. Manz and Christopher P Neck (Upper Saddle River, NJ: Prentice Hall, 1999), p. 51.

⁸³See the book Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (New York: Basic Books, 1997), pp. 46–47.

⁸⁴Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (New York: Harper Perennial, 1990), p. 6.

⁸⁵Ibid., p. 105.

⁸⁶Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi (New York: Basic Books, 1997), p. 117.

⁸⁷For a more detailed discussion on the idea of timelessness and its relation to creativity, see the article “When the Muse Takes it All: A Model for the Experience of Timelessness in Organizations,” by Charalampos Mainemelis, Academy of Management Review, Vol. 26, 2001, pp. 548-565.

⁸⁸This quote is published in the essay “Spirituality in the Workplace” by Martin Rutte, included in the book Heart at Work edited by Jack Canfield and Jacqueline Miller (New York, McGraw-Hill, 1996), p. 247.

⁸⁹See the essay “On Living a Lie” by Richard Brodie, included in the book Heart at Work edited by Jack Canfield and Jacqueline Miller (New York: McGraw-Hill, 1996), pp. 20–24).

⁹⁰This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 297.

⁹¹This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 288.

⁹²Getting to Yes, 2nd Edition, by Roger Fisher and William Ury (New York: Penguin Books, 1991), p. 112.

⁹³Parker J. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening For the Voice of Vocation (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000), pp. 5–6.

⁹⁴This quote is taken from the book Quotable Women: A Collection of Shared Thoughts. (Philadelphia, PA: Running Press, 1994).

⁹⁵This quote is from the classic book Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl (New York: Washington Square Press, 1984), p. 165.

⁹⁶Richard Leider, The Power of Purpose: Creating Meaning in Your Life and Work (San Francisco: Berrett-Koehler Publishers, 1997), p. 1.

⁹⁷For more information on the idea of “altruistic egoism,” see the classic book by Hans Selye Stress Without Distress (New York: Signet Books, 1974).

⁹⁸From the book Crossing the Unknown Sea: Work as a Pilgrimage of Identity, by David Whyte (New York: Riverhead Books, 2001), p. 4.

⁹⁹This material is taken from the chapter “Ben Cohen and Jerry Greenfield: Our Aspirations” in the book The Little Book of Business Wisdom: Rules of Success from More Than 50 Business Legends, edited by Peter Krass, (New York: Wiley & Sons, 2001), p. 172.

¹⁰⁰Ibid., p.175.

¹⁰¹This quote is included in the book The Book of Positive Quotations, compiled and arranged by John Cook (New York: Gramercy Books, 1999 edition), p. 333.

¹⁰²Parker J. Palmer, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2000), pp. 4–5.

¹⁰³Ibid., p. 5.

¹⁰⁴James Allen, As a Man Thinketh (Philadelphia, PA: Running Press, 1989). The original book was written in the 19th century.

¹⁰⁵This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 109.

¹⁰⁶See the article “What If You Worked at Enron?” by Charles Fishman, Fast Company, May 2002, pp. 102–112.

¹⁰⁷Ibid., p. 104.

¹⁰⁸Joel and Kate Feldman conduct relationship workshops and retreats at the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, Box 793, Lenox, MA 01240-0793, www.kripalu.org .

¹⁰⁹This quote was included in the “Leadership Thought of the Week” in the weekly e-mail of Adventure Quest-USA. The web site for Adventure Quest is www.AdventureQuest-USA.com.

¹¹⁰See the article “I’m Not Afraid to Seize the Moment” by Dotson Rader, Parade Magazine, April 29, 2001, pp. 4-6.

¹¹¹Dorothy Marcic, Managing with the Wisdom of Love: Uncovering Virtue in People and Organizations (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1997), p. 15.

¹¹²This quote is taken from Phillips Book of Great Thoughts & Funny Sayings by Bob Phillips (Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers, 1993), p. 195.