Control your mental response to stress 117
Dealing with rage
Rage is like falling off a cliff. If stress moves you, step by step,
towards the edge, it can take only one tiny shove to push you
over the edge. Fortunately, we can usually detect the upwelling
of anger that signals impending rage, so here are ve things you
can do when you sense your cork is about to pop.
1. Breathe
As we get tense and feel enraged, our bodies breathe more
quickly and less deeply. This deprives you of oxygen, reducing
whenever you need it, so practise it so that you can do it quickly
and easily whenever you want to.
Think of something that you associate with stress. Picture it in your
mind, as if it is an image on a television screen. Close your eyes and
watch it on TV and, as you watch, imagine the TV starts to move
further and further away from you, and the image gets dimmer and
less distinct. Keep the TV moving away slowly and steadily, and the
image getting fuzzier and dimmer, until, gradually, you can barely
make out the image at all. Then, in your mind, get up and walk
away.
Now open your eyes and think about your next meal. Yum.
When you are ready, next think of a time when you felt calm,
confident and relaxed; and visualise that in your mind’s eye. Put it
on a TV screen as before and close your eyes. This time, imagine the
TV is coming towards you and the image is getting bigger, clearer,
brighter and more real. The colours are getting sharper and more
vivid and it starts to feel like 3D TV. As the image gets bigger, feel
it start to wrap around you so that you are immersed in it. When
you feel ready, imagine yourself step into the image and take a
deep breath. Aaahh.