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There may also be a sense of relief and some positive emotions.
Here, however, we are focusing on changes that are perceived as
adverse or threatening – even if they are not really so.
When people start to get angry or upset about change, the last
thing you should do is try to reason with them: ‘There’s no point
in getting angry. Calm down and look at it rationally.’ This will just
make them more angry or upset. Instead, you must respect their
emotions and give them time to express them. The best thing
you can do is to listen to them uncritically.
Stage 3: Resistance
Eventually, the power of our emotions subsides and they are
replaced by reason. We start to become rational and start to
think through the situation. We rst tend to see the drawbacks
associated with the change, because we focus on what we are
losing, so this stage is characterised by a reasoned resistance to
change. If you are trying to promote the change, then encoun-
tering this resistance is daunting, because there will almost
certainly be pros and cons to the change, and now you have to
deal with rational opposition.
The good news is that rational
thinking allows us to analyse a situa-
tion and start to regain control. This
stage is where we can start to ght
the stress.
Stage 4: Exploration
Once we are thinking in a rational way, we can start to evaluate
the benets as well as costs of the change. This stage is often the
least energetic one, where we may feel frozen by inaction and
with minimum control. But it is the stage where we explore our
options and assess how to respond to the change. This choice
can give us control, and, when we make our decision, we can
seize control.
rational thinking
allows us to analyse a
situation and start to
regain control