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Being grateful
‘Polo: the mint with a hole.’ It is very easy to focus on what we
don’t have. Research shows that people feel better and make
better decisions when they focus on what they have and when
they feel a sense of gratitude for the good things in their lives.
If you make a habit of just taking a moment to be grateful when
something goes well, you will start to boost your sense of well-
being. To get a head start, take some time to jot down all of the
things in your life that you can be grateful for. For example:
family, friends, colleagues, sunshine, small successes, a favourite
book or TV programme, your education, a kindness somebody
did you, your health . . . The list could be endless.
When you feel really down and stressed out, there is an indus-
trial-strength approach that certainly got me out of a hole when
stressed by a combination of events: a move to a new home in
a new area, the inevitable late nights of unpacking, shifting and
cleaning, the birth of my daughter, the illness of a close relative,
a heavy workload, and nally a slipped disc. If you want a fresh
perspective on your life, you need a gratitude journal.
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exercise
Make a list of ten key events or moments in your past – good and
bad.
For each one, spend a few minutes reflecting on what good things
came out of it: what you enjoyed, what you learned, how it has
made you better. Work hardest on the events that are most painful.
What resources did they give you, what did you discover about
yourself or the people around you? With the most joyous events,
take a few minutes to savour the memories and make them even
more a part of who you are now.